Ask for help
You can benefit from many types of methods of getting help. As solid ground in most situations is to first of all acknowledge that you have a problem and need help. This also means to come to therapy from your own conviction. Do not come to therapy because someone is pushing you.
If you have a healthy approach to asking help, it changes for the better your entire perspective. However, there is also a situation when asking for help is actually part of, or transforms into a trap. Respectively, you are under the impression that you continuously need it. In this latter case it may be very difficult or even impossible to benefit from first cause therapy.
Considering that you have the healthy approach towards asking help you have already made a big step forward. The following important step means to pay attention. So pay attention with as much awareness as you can. Do it to what is happening with you during a situation that describes your problem. This will clear out with what you need help with more exactly.
For example, it may be that you have difficulties with speaking in public. But at a closer more focused look, you actually need help with being able to control your emotions. In fact, even more specific, you are afraid of the possibility that you will fail and people will laugh at you.
Complementary, in order to asses the importance of resolving your problem, you can pay attention to which are the consequences of your problem for you. From which you can take a larger perspective and pay attention to the way you live your life.
And third, as much as the situations allow it, let the people that you trust and are influenced by your problem know what you are going through and that you are working on it. Or at least, take under consideration how your situation influences the people around you, specially the ones that depend on you or that play an important role in your life.