When you are hindered constantly by the same thing, or you get the same unwanted response from your actions, you might have a problem controlling part of your life. No matter how consistent of feeble, you do have a contribution to the situations that happen to you. You may have a conscious or unconscious contribution. Either way, you have it. By acknowledging it, you make the first step to shift the perspective from things happening to you into you making things happen to you. In this way, you actually take the first step towards regaining your own power.
A patient or a client?
In the medical field you hear all the time the term patient. Here, you as patient change into you as client. The difference between a patient and a client is that you as a patient participate passively in the therapeutic process. You as a client, on the other hand, participate actively in the therapeutic process.
You as a client are willing to engage somatic, emotionally and mentally in the therapeutic process as in paying attention to each kind of symptom and live/relive it. Consequently, you will go through a confrontational process. You will relive tough and difficult moments in order to gain the possibility to integrate them as a full experience. This approach has minimum regard towards easiness or comfort from this point of view. However, you will do the relieving of the difficult moments with a very close consideration to your resources managed by the therapist. You can read more about the confrontational aspect here.
In contrast to the level of involvement mentioned above, you have to do only two things: mention the first thing that comes to mind when the therapist asks a question and offer an honest first come, first delivered answer, no matter how strange, unlikely or not related it may seem at first hand.
First thing that comes to mind
This first thing that comes to your mind plays a very important role during this type of therapy. Usually, you tend to offer meaning immediately to all the things that are around you or that pop in our mind. In the case of first cause therapy, it is the same with one amendment.
Meaning grows as the therapy session progresses. It is like at first only “letters” appear, and later on “words” will be formed. The words will form “sentences”, and “sentences” will form a “biographical story”. Each therapy session will be in the end a very personal, rich and meaningful biographical story. So, rest assured at the beginning and tell the first thing that comes to mind. Meaning will follow.
Your personal beliefs are not necessarily relevant for the therapeutic process. However, a healthy dose of open mindedness is required. Nothing more than to embrace the new as it comes along. Just make considerations about it only after the therapy session ends.
However, there is one important belief that you need. To come for therapy on your own decision. Do not come to therapy if somebody else did the pushing and convincing that you need to come. From this point of view, the relation between you and the person that makes the convincing does not matter.